
Have you watched some Hong Kong / Chinese martial arts action flick where the hero is surrounded by a horde of thugs? The hero would then proceed to calm himself down and in that state of peace be the most bad-ass Kung Fu master in the world. In order to master your opponent you first have to master yourself. Thus here in the college of gaming, I will talk about a few tips to put yourself ahead in battle.
Being angry and emotional in a game and in real life can lead to very serious consequences. If you lose your cool with a game or say your significant other, you might end up saying or doing something unwanted. What if in anger you charged guns blazing in a non arcade shooter like Rainbow Six or SOCOM? You'd be dead before you even pull the trigger. If you get in a heated argument with someone and say something nasty and below the belt, that person may never speak to you again because of your fault.
The best way to counter this is to control your emotions. The trick is to become casual and nonchalant with things. If you are losing in a game, think that it's just a game and your mind will be cleared of worries thus allowing you to counter attack (or at least have fun with the final moments). Same thing goes with a school or work project, when the deadlines approach, everyone has to keep calm and believe that they can overcome any problem. The Buddhist concept of Zen can be applied here where one can attain enlightenment through mediation.
For a Zen exercise try this: start up a very competitive game with the AI or a few close friends. Make sure the odds are stacked against you in the game be it having a 2 on 1 in Starcraft or playing solo in the hardest difficulty in Left 4 Dead. As the game progresses, you will lose unless you are extremely good but that's OK. The purpose of this exercise is for you to feel pressured and lose. By losing in a non-ranked practice match, you get to understand you emotions better. Ask yourself when feeling pressured: when and why are you feeling this way? Is it because the odds are stacked against you? Is there a bug or an exploit someone is using on you? By knowing why you are feeling pressured then you can counteract on it. When the situation arises, you can calm yourself. Now - you can think - how can I reduce the disadvantage or even turn this situation to an advantage. Now if you lost the disadvantaged fight, think and analyze where you could have done better? What were your weak points and strengths? It would be beneficial to write these things down after the game.
How can this be then related to a real life situation? People think that life is full of one shots that can't be predicted but this is certainly not true. If say you always feel pressured in tests - think of a decisive end game battle in an RTS as the test. In an RTS, you have to prepare your defenses and your army in advance just as in real life you have to study or work early in order to pass. You can only get away with so much in cramming or microing your best in the battle. The battle has to be won before it has begun. Your army must already know when and where the battle will take place - where to flank, where to throw a grenade perhaps as in real life you should already know the answers to questions in a test through your studies.
What if you did prepare thoroughly for that test / interview / project but in the end you still failed? Life doesn't end as you lose a game or fail your test. You pick yourself up - learn why you failed or lost the match and proceed to do better in future exams or games. Every failure teaches as much or even more than every success. Just be calm and relax. You may be have just one life and no continues in life yet life can be won in a multitude of ways.